How To Communicate Your Expectations in a Relationship

Posted on February 6, 2018 by Jay Roberson

Why Can’t My Spouse Hear What I’m Thinking? Soon after I graduated from Ole Miss I began to date my wife. Still living in Oxford, I passed on the exciting news to my campus minister who gave me a little … Continue reading →

Netflix Is Not a Date

Posted on January 3, 2018 by Jay Roberson

Why Dinner and a Movie Does Not Fix a Troubled Marriage I recently read that 28% of people retiring have no money saved and as many as 41% have never calculated how much money they will need to retire. … Continue reading →

Am I In An Abusive Relationship?

Posted on August 23, 2017 by Liza Young

Identifying Domestic Violence and Ways to Stay Safe First off, let me applaud you for having the courage to seek out the answer to this very vulnerable and scary question. Whether or not your partner is abusive you feel in … Continue reading →

The Science of Falling in Love – Phase Three: Lifetime Commitment

Posted on March 29, 2017 by Marti Witherow

The Science of Fidelity and Infidelity Series Trust Levels Affect Couples’ Ability to Resolve Conflict “Will you be there for me?“ “Can I trust you?” “When I am sad, angry, alone, confused, or just in a funk, do I come … Continue reading →

The Science of Falling in Love – Phase One: Limerence

Posted on December 7, 2016 by Marti Witherow

The Science of Fidelity and Infidelity Series Molecules of Love: Are you the one? The initial phase of a romantic relationship is often characterized by infatuation. However, amidst the excitement, there is the embedded fear that the relationship might be … Continue reading →

The Four Horsemen of the Marital Apocalypse, Part Four: Stonewalling

Posted on October 25, 2016 by Caty Coffey

Contributors to Marital Apocalypse Series For the past year, Paul and Amy’s marriage has been on the rocks. Most of their conversations turn into arguments. They are so tuned-in to negativity that it takes very little to set either of them … Continue reading →

The Four Horsemen of the Marital Apocalypse, Part Three: Contempt

Posted on September 30, 2016 by Caty Coffey

Contributors to Marital Apocalypse Series Imagine that you’re married to a lazy, unambitious, boring idiot who kills your social life and generally creates more work for you (because he won’t get off his butt and do things. Any household thing, any parenting … Continue reading →

The Four Horsemen of the Marital Apocalypse, Part Two: Defensiveness

Posted on September 12, 2016 by Caty Coffey

Contributors to Marital Apocalypse Series Not all negatives are equally damaging in relationships. In his last post, Russ Schulte introduced us to the “Four Horseman of the Apocalypse” – four behaviors that researchers John and Julie Gottman determine to be … Continue reading →

The Four Horseman of the Marital Apocalypse, Part One: Criticism

Posted on August 29, 2016 by Russ Schulte

Contributors to Marital Apocalypse Series Introduction What ingredients make for an unsatisfying, dysfunctional relationship? Check out an overview by Marti Witherow as a helpful reference. In her post, she conveys a summary of some of the most identifiable contributors of dysfunction according to … Continue reading →

You can either be Right or be Married: Gridlock vs. Dialogue

Posted on July 5, 2016 by Marti Witherow

It has happened to all of us before. You saw a look in your partner’s eyes, felt a change of tone in their voice, or caught a quick glimpse of rolling eyes. You felt a sense of confusion and anger rise up … Continue reading →